55M - Been with the same woman for 19 years.
They're are more important things than sex. For me the greatest thing is the love we share. She knows me, accepts my failures, loves me for who I am.
My feelings are mutual.
Of course sex is nice... I don't always feel sexually attracted to her, but we talk about it and sometimes she doesn't find me attractive.... Reality
Love is more special than sex, and I'm not downsizing sex and it's importance, but someone knowing you, knowing when you want sex,. More importantly, when they don't, or you don't, is the most important part.
My wife and I desire one another....I need pills (cyalis) occasionally when she wants me and I'm not feeling it. It's not ideal.
I think finding love and reciprocal love is the most important part. That's just me.
At the end of the day, peace, love, happiness and compatibility are the most important parts. I would love to be hard 24/7 but at 55 I'm not.
Looking at porn, masterbation will give you a fantasy. Men are designed to spread their seed. Women are designed to be the recipient and childbearing bodies.
Our current society is bringing confusion to sexuality. I've tried it all. I've been with men, women, women who thought they were men, and women who believed themselves men.
Sex, love, and attraction, it's physical, fantasmigorical, and everything in between. You might be hard for a vagina, a cock, or both. It's all natural. If you're turned on, exercise your freedom. enjoy the experience, but be aware.
AIDS made sexual freedom in my generation a frightening concept. After having sex with dozens, I was certain I'd die from it. Lucky, was and still is my nickname.
Be safe, have fun, but fine someone who appreciates more than your cock or vagina. It's eventually about WHO you are And WHO she is, or whoever you feel "InLove" with?