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Advice Does sexual interest drop after 40 or what?

MountainTrails

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I didn't find 40 to be a significant number. Granted, the days of walking around partially erect most of the day due to boxer friction are long gone. But I'm in my 60s and still have a high sex drive.

There were bigger factors in the sex as I aged: menopause was the main one (because I'm kinda traditional in the sense that I think sex takes 2 people) and now I'm dealing with a hernia that takes too much active thought during fun time.

On the other side of the aging equation, one does learn things over the decades of experience.
 

w01fg4ng

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Losing a testicle can also decrease these chemicals. I've come to appreciate it's aesthetics as well.
 

yubacity

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Im 46 soon and as horny as fuck but things change i remember in my prime some crank and women fucking all night dirty meth sex now i still take my time but the energy level drops i found if im not on gear im just as horny as when young . This morning watching sky news loooking at kay burley who is old but maybe 10 year differance thinking loads of coke i could do dirty things with her
 

LadyWitch

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I've always had a high sex drive. In fact, I often found it difficult to find men who could keep up. The biggest difference between me now, in my mid-forties, and when I was in my twenties is that I am much more patient and diligent when it comes to who I'll agree to get naked with these days. I've learned a lot, a man must deserve to go to bed with me. ;)
 

AyahuascaSeeker

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Can't really be fucked these days. Could be the opiate issue combined with the ADHD and weed... Also could be I fucked enough and got bored of it. Not too sure. 🤷🏻‍♂️ Pretty sad for a 38 year old to not give two fucks about sex or women huh. Ah well.
 

ions

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Jerking off is becoming less of a thrill. Invega also is like chemical castration. I can't get full throbbers anymore.

I'm sure a pretty girl would be nice to make love to. It's been awhile. I'm 38 so I still have the drive to reproduce.

I bet I would have no problem getting a boner with most girls just cuz my body knows how to still get aroused even tho I"m older on invega. I'll figure that out soon enough.
 

impossiblephoto123

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55M - Been with the same woman for 19 years.

They're are more important things than sex. For me the greatest thing is the love we share. She knows me, accepts my failures, loves me for who I am.

My feelings are mutual.

Of course sex is nice... I don't always feel sexually attracted to her, but we talk about it and sometimes she doesn't find me attractive.... Reality

Love is more special than sex, and I'm not downsizing sex and it's importance, but someone knowing you, knowing when you want sex,. More importantly, when they don't, or you don't, is the most important part.

My wife and I desire one another....I need pills (cyalis) occasionally when she wants me and I'm not feeling it. It's not ideal.

I think finding love and reciprocal love is the most important part. That's just me.

At the end of the day, peace, love, happiness and compatibility are the most important parts. I would love to be hard 24/7 but at 55 I'm not.

Looking at porn, masterbation will give you a fantasy. Men are designed to spread their seed. Women are designed to be the recipient and childbearing bodies.

Our current society is bringing confusion to sexuality. I've tried it all. I've been with men, women, women who thought they were men, and women who believed themselves men.

Sex, love, and attraction, it's physical, fantasmigorical, and everything in between. You might be hard for a vagina, a cock, or both. It's all natural. If you're turned on, exercise your freedom. enjoy the experience, but be aware.

AIDS made sexual freedom in my generation a frightening concept. After having sex with dozens, I was certain I'd die from it. Lucky, was and still is my nickname.

Be safe, have fun, but fine someone who appreciates more than your cock or vagina. It's eventually about WHO you are And WHO she is, or whoever you feel "InLove" with?
 

Shelbel69

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I've always had a high sex drive. In fact, I often found it difficult to find men who could keep up. The biggest difference between me now, in my mid-forties, and when I was in my twenties is that I am much more patient and diligent when it comes to who I'll agree to get naked with these days. I've learned a lot, a man must deserve to go to bed with me. ;)
Same here girl. I have become very particular in who I allow to touch my body. It's the sense of entitlement some men have that irrates tf out of me. That's one reason I stopped dating and looking for a man. Imo most of them are trash human beings. Lol but I'm biased, I think society as a whole is total garbage.
 
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