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Advice Does sexual interest drop after 40 or what?

yubacity

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Mine has not and nor has my wifes hers has gone through the roof even more then her late 30s we are both 46
 

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I’m 47. I thought I was asexual for decades. Turns out just didn’t like my husband. I discovered I have an insatiable sex drive now and it just seems to get better each year since my divorce in 2019. I hope I never go back to not enjoying it. I’m sure to be extremely open and communicative w my partners and it’s made it amazing. And I cum quite a few times now. The only problem is finding partners who can hang.
 

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Another enjoyment of a mature relationship resides with the ability to explore sexual curiosities without insecurities. I don't know how many times I've triggered some poor inexperienced soul with tales of my sex life only for them to realize that they are the ones stuck in their feelings.

This part of a relationship that allows a person to be who they are without projecting insecurities is called love. Who is to say that it is wrong? Might as well give them something to talk about.
Me and my wife have been togerther since 15 married at 22 she not let me have sex before marriage with her she a devout catholic . Only about a couple of months ago did she let me go down on her and she loved it but makes me brush my teeth afterwards . I have cheated so much with women I met escorts couple of her friends all the mad drug fuelled hotel sex with other women .
It was cuntish but I will say this even though my wife not very adventurous sex with her a women I would die a thousand times for a women that I think is better looking then sll others sex with her is the best with the person you love I have never had better sex . I was thinking shall I try licking her chocolate well but that to early and will make me look like a weirdo to her time and patience ill get there might be pensioners I can wait it be worth it
 

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I’m 47. I thought I was asexual for decades. Turns out just didn’t like my husband. I discovered I have an insatiable sex drive now and it just seems to get better each year since my divorce in 2019. I hope I never go back to not enjoying it. I’m sure to be extremely open and communicative w my partners and it’s made it amazing. And I cum quite a few times now. The only problem is finding partners who can hang.
Oh sorry you were in a relationship that made you think you didn’t like sex. But good thing you got out and you have lots of time to make up for lost time. Go get ‘em, tiger! And don’t accept anyone but the folk who are willing to stick with you (and in you?) you till you’ve cum your last drop! You deserve good sex :)
 

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Music gets boring if you listen to the same song forever. The older I get, the more I process my sexual hangups and liberate myself. There is a lifetime journey of exploration and discovery, in the same way you can explore drugs for a lifetime.

Have sex with someone older than you, or (legally) younger than you. Have sex with someone who is the same sex or the opposite sex. Fuck a black dude. Or an Asian woman. Try BDSM.

I think shitty sex gets boring and people inevitably lose interest. Long term monogamous relationships can make this difficult but if you're not satisfied you should at least try to talk it out. Maybe experiment with an open relationship or have a threesome?
 

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I find it quite 🤮 when people have sex who are 50
I used to think that as a youngster I'm now 46 same with wife and when not on gear I'm horny as fuck . My wife has kept herself in good shape and 31 years together I still get a stiffy when I'm in bed she comes into it after shower and starts putting her underwear on and applying lotion. Now I think we be having sex together until we drop dead
 

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I found sexual activity actually drops when the kids where young I would be busy working all day than helping in my and my cousin's business and my wife with the then 3 kids would be shattered and your life really does change in those few years . You always wake up with one of the kids wanting to get in bed so that fear is there also that you may be having sex when the knock on the door happens. You then start to have when all-alone quickies now we have 4 kids and we have a toddler who luckily loves to sleep in the last 6 months with my wife dad who was down for a few months from states or my mom who was down before him so we had about six months of a empty bed . My wife has never liked sticking kids in a crib and let them sleep in there own room she would stick the crib in our room with then would have trouble getting them to sleep on their own but these six months were great. Like i said before sex with my wife is so intense its filled with a love and sexual interest but the love is what overtakes everything i know what she limkes and her just being her is what i like .
If you have been with a woman for any length of time and she still is not pleased in bed then in mymind you are being lazy you can either learn what they like how they like it by doing it so much or just fucking ask . i was lucky i naturally took a long time to cum then add opium on to that but i used to find i would have to use condoms with my wife because she would orgasm and I would be I no way near to cumming so I had to just make the movements of cumming and just enjoy her having an orgasm and the cuddling and kissing afterwards.

Opium is a big sexual interest dropper but i would still have to make sure my wife had a healthy sex life so i would add coke and pregabalin to the mix and i could stop using a condom because it made my wife feel conflicted and sinful because she a devout catholic reason my 3rd daughter and 4th child in total was born. Sexual attraction doers not go down it increases in women . I have been a scumbag with my cheating but it must be a love of my wife my high school sweetheart that makes sex with her blow all the meth sex and cike sex out of the water . And all the youngsters who like me thought sex when fifty is disgusting i guarantee you guys will be having more sex with your partner after your 40s then in your younger days. You are both getting older together and there is a sexual feeling with that you have built a home and are raising your kids and when you get to our age range you start to relax more . There is beauty in actually getting older together seems like only a few years ago that I'm going with my best friend his girlfriend and her best friend jenny to watch Pearl Jam . I was never tongue tied around girls but with her, I felt so shy 31 years later we in our 40s and still having sex more now and so in love
 
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I used to think that as a youngster I'm now 46 same with wife and when not on gear I'm horny as fuck . My wife has kept herself in good shape and 31 years together I still get a stiffy when I'm in bed she comes into it after shower and starts putting her underwear on and applying lotion. Now I think we be having sex together until we drop dead
🤢🤢🤢
 

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I used to think that as a youngster I'm now 46 same with wife and when not on gear I'm horny as fuck . My wife has kept herself in good shape and 31 years together I still get a stiffy when I'm in bed she comes into it after shower and starts putting her underwear on and applying lotion. Now I think we be having sex together until we drop dead
On gear ? What kind of gear ?
 

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On gear ? What kind of gear ?
He means heroin, most likely,
So ? Fat and ugly people gotta get after it too but it does not look tasty too see that
I’m saying time will give you perspective. It might be gross to you now. If you meet the right person, watching them grow old AND getting to fuck them might seem like a good thing.

My tastes have certainly changed since I was younger. I know other guys who still chase almost underage chicks in their 30s too.
 

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I find it very creepy when 60 years old chasing after 20.
I mean sometimes I think they have a mental disorder or I dont know
 

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I find it very creepy when 60 years old chasing after 20.
I mean sometimes I think they have a mental disorder or I dont know
That is very creepy what can they have in common . It was like this nightclub owner in UK peter stringfellow he was 65 and his girlfriend 16 legal age in Uk that mane is basically a nonce if the legal age was 14 he would have gone with that also
 

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He means heroin, most likely,

I’m saying time will give you perspective. It might be gross to you now. If you meet the right person, watching them grow old AND getting to fuck them might seem like a good thing.

My tastes have certainly changed since I was younger. I know other guys who still chase almost underage chicks in their 30s too.
Watching your partner get old as the years pass has an attraction for me watching my wife grow old from 15 to 46 and as much as she goes to the gym to keep her her body slim but after kids hips seem bigger and other changes seems very sexy to me . Same as my hair turning a little grey she finds sexy and i find women are sexier after their 30s for you younger members remember my age happens in a flash the most rewarding thing in life is finding the right person . Only thing about getting old is you lose people who you loved so much there a Punjabi saying which translates to ahead of us as we age are tears . Also you find your friends as you call them spend first 5 minutes telling you their medical problems
 

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I remember my friend when we were about 20 would have 50 plus porno mags this before internet so mags it was i can remember this so clearly looking at one and thinking 50 that's old now im 4 years off the years have flown by in a flash
 
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