[QUOTE="FunctionalJnkieGrl, post: 15335764, member: 532040" I don't want my mere non-sober existence to make her relapse
Honestly, 'my mere EXISTENCE make her relapse' ??! That's one of the most bizarre sentences I've ever read. Just knowing somebody else is doing stuff doesn't MAKE you do stuff.
I mean what are you gonna do, hypnotize her? Forcibly administer meth to her?...
... Obviously not. So if she's really set on staying off it, she'll stay off. Nothing the heck to do with whatever YOUR habits are. And presumably you're not planning on 'temptingly' taking tabs in front of her.
But 'faith based rehab' oh dear oh dear. Just hearing that sets my alarm bells ringing. Those are the worst places for indoctrinating you with nonsense notions like mysterious forces outside of yourself 'cause' you to take drugs, that your personal choices and desires don't come into it, and you're a helpless weak fragile victim of your own use and will be mindlessly 'triggered' by absolutely anything and everything.
A good friend of mine ended up in a place where they literally had you eat your breakfast cereal with a fucking fork because apparently the mere sight of a spoon would make you immediately run out to score dope. That's how insane it gets. (Also I'd love to hear those people explain how you're supposed to realistically live your life without encountering spoons ever again.)
.. So yeah if they've done a proper number on her and she's internalized all that shit, you might wanna avoid interaction. On the other hand long - term friendships are important and shouldn't be abandoned just because one of you decides to live their life differently. Maybe just tell her you've given up too. Little white lies are sometimes the way to go.
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Yeah, I posted earlier this year about working with people who are part of a faith-based rehab program. It seems kind of like a culty dictatorship (how they run the program). They have strange rules. They're only allowed to listen to Christian music, they don't receive pay at work, they can't wear band t-shirts that aren't of Christian bands, they have to get up at 4:30am to pray/chant, etc. Yet somehow, they're still allowed to smoke cigarettes and caffeine is okay. I've known people who left the program religious when they weren't religious to begin with and wind up trying to convert anyone who they think is nonreligious. I guess if it works it works and if the motive is to get people clean by whatever means necessary then they're doing something right. I just don't see why religious indoctrination is necessary for everyone. I mean, even addicts who aren't Christian need help. What are they gonna do? Turn them down if they don't wanna be be converted to a religion they don't identify with? My friend was always a Christian though, so maybe its the right route for her. I just want her to be happy and wish her well. I even first met her while attending a Christian preschool. Glad I didn't stay there though. I once got in trouble there for praying with my eyes open--to which my mother called out the teacher bitch by saying "Well how would you know unless your eyes were open too? And tell me, why the fuck would God care if she prays with her eyes open or closed?" Talk about pushing people AWAY from religion....
