What’s the longest time you were without sex?
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tussive
Bluelighter
Since 2015 I have had sex one time. It was a Craigstlist threesome that went horribly, I was mid-DXM and Adderall binge, so I barely even count it. So pretty much eight years. I don't really desire sex much, just not my thing, so it doesn't really bother me in the least. I could happily go the rest of my life without sex.
Snafu in the Void
Bukowski Jr.
Almost 5 years now. During my psychosis my then gf dumped me. After recovering I did not feel like seeking another relationship for various reasons, and over the last decade my sex drive has dwindled to becoming almost non-existent.
crazyhairman
Bluelighter
With another person? A year I think.
Now if you claim masterbation, it would be a week
Now if you claim masterbation, it would be a week
HumanityIsTheDevil
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A year or so maybe. Could be two, as i sometimes have phases where i become a complete recluse for a long time. This is usually when i'm trying to get sober.
I always feel like shit after casual hookups (even moreso with friends than with strangers), a relationship is out of the question in my current state and i'm presently heavily cutting down on socializing to avoid relapsing into drinking, so i guess there might be a long time of just jerking off in store for me.
Shame. I'm a pretty decent lay, even if i say so myself.
I always feel like shit after casual hookups (even moreso with friends than with strangers), a relationship is out of the question in my current state and i'm presently heavily cutting down on socializing to avoid relapsing into drinking, so i guess there might be a long time of just jerking off in store for me.
Shame. I'm a pretty decent lay, even if i say so myself.
I feel for you mate. You might surprise yourself though. What about trying activities that are totally sober after you're feeling better? Even if it's NA/AA meetings, but you could try taking a class or whatever - something you're interested in - that involves socialising.
I understand wanting to be reclusive when you're getting clean but it isn't sustainable long term as you'll get bored and lonely eventually and relapse. Or that's what I do anyway...
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I understand wanting to be reclusive when you're getting clean but it isn't sustainable long term as you'll get bored and lonely eventually and relapse. Or that's what I do anyway...
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HumanityIsTheDevil
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NA and AA are absolutely horrible. I do volunteer work a few times a week where i chat about everyday shit with my co-workers. Other than that, i have no hobbies or interests. I used to play music and write lyrics, but i quit and i now consider myself a failure as an artist. If it don't make dollars, it don't make sense.
Why bother, when my plan right now is to get sober so i can pay off my debts, then go to the shooting range and blow my brains out?
Pay off your debts then blow your brains out? I've never heard that plan before.
HumanityIsTheDevil
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I have a strong sense of responsibility, and carry a lot of guilt for being such a charity case and downright mooching off people. I want to get my affairs in order before i press fast forward on this boring movie. And going to the range requires money anyway. Money i don't have if i continue to drink.
This has nothing to do w/ the original topic tho.
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TheUltimateFixx
Bluelighter
Several years and I went a bit insane.
SpiralusSancti
Bluelighter
Dude wtf?
I don’t want to get banned again for suggesting something to you. But isn’t there like a lot of things better for the brain than a bullet?
You should undo all your bad deeds or whatever but after that don’t check out damn. First at least check out here and consider other options.
SpiralusSancti
Bluelighter
I have feeling if I would went for several years without sex after that it wouldn’t matter few more, but would also in a sense get insane. Insaneception
Like I’m getting stronger and stronger urges right now but at the same time got to watch out for venomous pussies or is it toxic, forgot how she works lol
And when I clear out my body some more out of toxins I know next round will be better than last, that more or less reminded me of physical sensations but wasn’t really something to write about, still I had to inform whole BL lol
TheUltimateFixx
Bluelighter
I groan with resignation anytime people throw around the generic word 'toxins' like that. It's vague as shit and absolutely meaningless in any scientific sense.
Literally ANYTHING can be a 'toxin' if you ingest it in a higher amount than your body can handle, including bloody WATER. Whatever your body doesn't like or has a surplus of via your diet will be excreted so long as you have a functioning liver and kidneys. Acute actual poisoning is going to lead to a crisis that'll land you in the ER pretty sharpish.
SpiralusSancti
Bluelighter
Oh I didn’t mean to offend you and provoke hate. I mean toxins as not broad definition of that word, I don’t mean gluten or too much water.
Btw. since you say old dose-makes-a-poison, did you know toulen was investigated as antidepressant, it somewhat works but it’s pretty toxic even at very low ppm.
TheUltimateFixx
Bluelighter
Man I'm truly sorry to hear but seriously, you got this SO arse-backwards; and whoever is trying to 'help' you isn't doing you ANY damn favours.
You've been heavily and routinely associating 2 seperate things to the point where you can't even tell the difference anymore; that much is obvious.
I'm mostly on here speaking from my experience as a heroin addict, but I've also had a not-insignificant problem with alcohol.
I started off liking alcohol right from my first drink; I've also always loved music. A few key enjoyable events when I was young involved both alcohol and music (pretty routine experience), and my mind just started to blend all that together.
Alcohol + music = pleasure.
It got to the point over the years where I couldn't even derive enjoyment from one without the other. Anytime I had a drink I would want to be listening to music (increasingly on my own). Whenever I listened to music I'd feel compelled to also drink. It took me over a year to train myself out of that automatic thought habit and mindless association.
What I'm trying to tell you here is DON'T avoid A because you've conditioned yourself it will somehow 'cause' B. That way of thinking just forever re-enforces the link. Try to consciously SEPERATE the link so that A will no longer equal B, and you can learn to appreciate one without the other again.
Yup.
WTF?!
creative work is a joy in itself and a wonderful thing of human expression ; it needs no financial 'validation' to have worth. FFS most of what makes money in today's world is meaningless crap.
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TheUltimateFixx
Bluelighter
The dose literally DOES make the poison. That's not somehow outdated as you're seeming to imply, that's a simple fact.
I've never heard of 'toulen' but if this is indeed the case, that in no way invalidates that basic premise. It would merely mean this compound may have some beneficial effects, but the general ADVERSE effects make it not worth taking.
PS the general degree of 'toxicity' of any given substance (as specific to humans) is measured by how much of it our bodies can tolerate without experiencing said adverse effects.
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